I never have this problem in auctions. I bid once, at the very maximum I would want to bid. I don't have to wait to see if I'm sniped, because I wasn't going to bid any higher.
Sometimes I might wind up paying more than I might have had to pay, but I never pay more than I was willing.
But I never get sniped, and never worry about the auction rules. If someone outbids me, good on them, and good for the seller. If I win, good on me, good on the seller.
If you got outbid and you couldn't babysit the 5 minute rule, you should have just bid your maximum. The only thing that beat you was your own greed.