Just idly curious - how does she handle the physicality of poker (cards, chips, etc)? She sorta strikes me as a consummate on-line free money type of player that knows to play the game but this may be one of her first live sessions....it's just so friggin' strange to try to re-image yourself for a $20 cash game.
That said, unless there is another personality issue at play, I don't think it's that big a deal. As a host with a game that you want to sustain, you have to either be blessed with a lot of knowledgeable players with good personalities (and we're very fortunate in the MA/NH area) or determine how much you're willing to put up with based on the number of regs you have. Unless either the husband or she has an awful personality or really acted inappropriately (outside of being knowledgeable about poker), I'd have them back.
I really struggled with this. A number of the experienced players at her first game talked about her play after she left, and we all agreed she had a gift for timed aggression, good folds/calls, and a stone cold nutz poker face. The one part that didn't fit was her min buyin amount.
A good player would want as big a stack as possible, and starting buyins for last night's session were $20-40, going upwards of $100 max buyins later in the session as average stack sizes increased. Everyone bought in for $40, except this couple. And in this particular session her stack never improved, and she never had much to work with.
Her first session, she got lucky early on, improved her stack to around $60 and then came alive... Ya, I wasn't intimidated by her play, but once she had a stack, she knew how to use it. It is just weird that she'd choose to start out without a real competitive stack in the first place?
My games often run until anywhere between 3am-6am, but we do get players who will leave at midnight or 1am (which is no biggie). For them to come at 7pm, and leave at 9-9:30pm (after busting for $20) isn't a good fit for this particular group. If they hadn't busted, I'm betting they'd have left the second they hit a big payday or 10pm (whichever came first).
This last session wasn't overly aggressive, but we still had $1000 on the table ($.25/.50 blinds). I'm not necessarily looking for donors, but I'd like people who've come to play.