I get it. I really do. And that's not sarcasm or snark.
Is there an easy answer? I'm not sure there is.
We all had these same discussions over a year ago when "the other site" was opened, and then quickly closed, due to lack of moderation of the very things that spurred its creation. Namely doxing, bashing/harassment of other members, completely unlimited/unhindered speech, etc. And then what happened...? The site owner finally relented, realized he needed to start moderating some things, and then he got bashed as a result. It's not worth rehashing all of it but it just demonstrates both perspectives. Specifically: abuse of moderation/censorship is not good, and limitless freedom for posted subject matter is not good either.
Is there a perfect balance? I honestly don't know.
I thought the discussions on the other site were great. Some were heated, but everyone got to share their point of view without worrying about moderation. It seemed the ending was due to the issue where an individual’s information was given out by someone with site access to it. That was a bad deal.