Gobbs, I think you missed this from my post. “That was a unique situation. He was called suddenly for an emergency. If he went to the location and returned, it would be over 3 hours before he got back. We didn't have that much time left as we only anticipated going another 1-1.5 hours at the most. When he left, he intended to abandon the game. He didn't expect a payout.”
I’ll give more detail. We were at the final table. His wife was 1.5 hours away. Her car was totaled, but she wasn’t in it (she was on a work assignment and parked at the time, but saw what happened). When he got the call, it was obviously a serious situation, we took a time out for his benefit so he could take the call. He is a popular player and no one wanted to see him blinded off for an emergency if it could be handled quickly. He had to pick her up. Further, it looked like what caused the accident was going to require her to be on the scene longer than the time it would take him to get there (police investigation), but he wasn’t going to leave her stranded out of town in the middle of the night. I offered to blind his stack and pay if he cashed because that was our rule. However, he rejected that offer. He actually wanted to have his stack treated as a disqualified player’s stack, but there was no cause for disqualification. While I agree he paid for his chips, I understand his position. He didn’t want to negatively affect friends or give anyone a significant advantage. His call on that – not ours.
He left when there were 9 players, and 5 were being paid. He didn’t expect to cash, but also didn’t want to give someone behind him an advantage every round. Since we didn’t have a rule that allowed a stack to just be removed, we blinded it. No one expected within about 10 minutes of his leaving 3 players would be KO’d, and that altered the situation. Then it became possible for his stack to materially affect those still in. So, the rule was changed according to our procedures for that situation.
An alternative considered was dividing his chips equally among those left. The problem was that would have helped the lesser stacks the most. He wouldn’t have wanted that.
In hold ’em, a dead stack to your immediate left is a huge advantage because 2x/orbit, the same guy is last to act. That’s twice as often as everyone else gets to do that. That could have gone for several rounds.
The other situation I mentioned earlier, me and at least 2 others overheard the player on a phone call saying, "I'm at a cheap poker game now. I'll be at your game on time, but I'm hoping to get a big enough stack to cash after I leave." Nice guy, but he never intended to stay to the end of our game. That didn't sit well.
Gobbs, in the other game ~ If hosts don’t ask for RSVPs, they aren’t entitled to them; it’s just an open invitation. I do open invitations, as do most other games I know of around here. They didn’t ask for an RSVP. The players who RSVP’d just wanted to make sure they had a guaranteed seat. I was willing to risk being out if too many showed up. When hosts ask for an RSVP, I do RSVP, and usually let them know of my plans if the rules don’t discourage it. If the host wants to, they could say “no RSVP, no play,” effectively requiring an RSVP to play, but I RSVP I’m not playing if the host asks players to RSVP.
I suggested random seating, offered to help do it, but the host didn’t believe want random seating. They assigned players tables, but seats were not random. Nor did they have table captains per se, but were happy someone (me) would take charge of handling blinding and I was assigned to give them a seat to make it easy on me. I don’t think the host believed that was a significant advantage for me. On both counts, simply applying the rules of the game is not unethical. You are going to get the behavior your rules encourage. Said another way, play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
I even explained to the hosts how the positional advantage worked. Their response was “we don’t care if you will take care of the blinding.” Neither of them played like they believed position was important.
That game had several rules and policies that made little sense, but for me, it was close, fun, overall profitable, and a number of those players came to my game so it was good for recruiting.
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BG is exactly right about the effect of a skilled player with a positional advantage 2x/orbit. The positional situation was discussed after our two situations, and that's one reason I implemented the "abandon the game, you abandon any prize money." Players know that coming in.
Moxie, there are several differences between home games and casino games. One is that players frequently not only know each other, but the host knows them too. We use WSOP/TDA rules to the extent we think they make sense for a home game. One example is a casino might not tolerate two friends razzing each other during a game because the casino doesn't know they are friends and can't have inconsistently applied rules. A home game host can know that and follow a common sense rule. That is but one example.
Despite our professional rules, we advertise as a recreational group. Some home games are far more serious, and more casino rules might make sense in those cases. When the WSOP or TDA change rules, my thoughts are we should use their rule (even if I don't like it) unless there is a good reason we shouldn't.