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Thank you @Okku for your openness, everything went smooth and great with the design you helped me with. I always show it off to my new players. From someone who’s dealt, and still deals with too many things at once, please look into the GTD system, perhaps your Mrs can help learn it a bit when the kids are napping and there’s some room to breathe. I remember what it feels like to be confronted with another task and feeling everything crumple up from my shoulders to my core, that system has helped me so much with that. Just ask ChatGPT for some baby steps in using it, it’s helped a ton and I’m hoping it can help you, too.

I’ll wait a bit to send you my new design idea lol, I believe in you and thank you again for confronting the criticism head on and taking action. Prevention is the best action sometimes, I’ll be learning that one all my life and I’m sure we’re in the same boat, even if yours is rockier right now
 
I want to clean up what I said earlier.

I shared too much personal family detail, and I understand why some of it did not land well. I was trying to explain the stress behind the scenes, but the public thread does not need all of that.

The main point is simple: Oscar needs to resolve anything outstanding, communicate better, and stop taking on more than he can handle.

I also understand why asking people to keep sending artwork work sounded wrong in this context. That was not the right thing to say while people are still discussing unresolved obligations.

Please handle any open issues directly with Oscar so he can verify them and close them out. I appreciate those who have shown concern, and I understand those who are frustrated.
 
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IowaHoldem said:
Im just gonna leave this forum, not been a great experience with a lot of you OG's. Take care.
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Dude you’re a grown ass adult, just take your ball and go home no one wants to hear your whining. Sorry the older kids didn’t like you, why are you trying to make the thread about you?
 
Machine said:
Dude you’re a grown ass adult, just take your ball and go home no one wants to hear your whining. Sorry the older kids didn’t like you, why are you trying to make the thread about you?
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Pot, meet kettle.
 
Okku said:
i appreciate the slight understanding (and honestly even the backlash). i’m used to mom groups where women post their babies shitty diapers asking “is this normal?” and it being some super bright green gritty shit…this group seems to be the opposite. no shitty diapers in here, but instead a shitty situation that my husband has, yet again, gotten himself into *heavy heavy heaavvyyy sigh*.



to all, please let me know if he is lagging on something. i dunno how to reference people buuutttt i saw someone say i should make him a schedule and a to do list. honestly it’s a good idea, just not super ideal. i have tried, but oscar has so much shit going on and i don’t have the attention span to sit and do it and my vyvanse are really only good for part of the day which is spent tending to my kids and being the best mom i can be. like i said before, everyone knows where to find me. we literally have the same last name and it’s not exactly common. shoot me a message on facebook or wherever and i’ll help however i can or even if you just wanna shit talk my husband…i’m perfectly okay with it because it’s IRRITATING!



as far as artwork and such goes, please keep it coming. it’s one of the few things i’ve noticed that oscar genuinely enjoys. he likes the shit that makes his brain go “OOOOO AAAAA WOWWW.” and honestly, it’s been paying a lot of the bills too. full transparency and completely outing our situation here…we have maybeeee like $100 in our account right now. bills eat us alive along with basic living expenses, having a high matinence baby who has some pretty bad eczema and for those who knows how bad it can get..it’s also very expensive, and we need to get the hell out of our apartment before i rip my hair out. that’s a story for another time, but this place is SHIT and not just in a personal opinion kinda way.

also to add the cut card gb?? he miscalculated or something (i don’t care anymore) to the point where we didn’t have the money and so we put the remaining balance on my credit card…which still has almost a 2k balance..because we can’t afford to pay it. i know there are a million ways to make money….the artwork gigs aren’t STABILE income but they help and it’s something that makes oscar happy which he needs….i definitely am on board with a second job or even a job for me…but we genuinely have gotten to the point where we can’t even really spend time together and for those of you who have had kids and have experienced the postpartum period with your s/o…it’s hard and draining. ppd will tear you down and make you want to die. i don’t remember anything from my oldests baby-hood and that’s all thanks to my situation and ppd/ppa/ppp (not blaming not only a select few of you truly know my story…and if you did maybe you’d see where i’m coming from. i’m open to sharing.) oscar and i have tried to prioritize our relationship a bit more but it’s hard. no intimacy, we both knock out the second we hit the bed, and we can’t just “sit on the couch” because our oldests room is directly in front of it and she is a heathen.



i have offered to get a night job. the issue is i’m on meds right now that kinda make it to where i NEED sleep, and with 2 small kids that’s hard enough already. oscar, as dumb as it sounds, also genuinely needs sleep. if oscar doesn’t sleep, his body starts malfunctioning or something because he full on throws up and i still don’t even know why…and he runs to the sink…not even the toilet. i don’t enjoy throw up. nobody does. but if i can avoid it, i absolutely will, which is part of why he does artwork at night.



again, we truly are doing our best given the circumstances. if i could figure out a way to organize all the artwork/messages/orders better, i would, but at the end of the day i am also exhausted. i think i got a total of maybe 2 hours of sleep last night because our oldest is super sick and threw up more times than i can count. baths basically every hour. yes, i have timestamp pics if needed because apparently proof is a thing now, and i will fully admit oscar has burned a lot of bridges and i will be the one to take accountability where i can. oscar helped me because again…I cannot do puke.



today i took her to the doctor and now i’m trying to keep her away from our son because him being born 11 weeks early means if he catches whatever she has, he will end up in the hospital per the pediatrician. we live in a SUPER tiny 2 bedroom apartment so keeping them separated is basically impossible, but that’s what oscar has been helping with today.



basically we’re exhausted, overwhelmed, broke, stressed, and trying our best. oscar isn’t ignoring people because he doesn’t care. life is just genuinely chaos right now and i think a lot of it is that he just wants to make everyone happy, even if he isn’t doing it the right way…he just doesn’t have the words to express how he feels. i promise no ill will is thought about any of you. oscar is far from a scammer. if anything, i’d like for him to get a bit tougher. he once told me if someone broke into our apartment he’d probably try talking to them instead of fighting them, so trust me, he’s far from malicious. (pls help me here ANYONE?)



please keep the artwork stuff coming because it helps mentally and financially more than you guys probably realize. this economy sucks ass for everyone…even if you’re a millionaire. (am i allowed to cuss in here???). i know oscar has realllyyyy been fucking up with people on here, and if something needs attention or he’s lagging on something, message me and i’ll DO my best to help. if you can’t find me…reach out to that bald guy that matches his shoes with the same red and black shirt he wears (i hope i described him good enough) I truly appreciate every single one of you even the ones that haven’t really been the nicest (rightfully so). i was going to make an account on here but i genuinely don’t really care about it, i can just peep without an account, don’t have the time, am too tired and need my Lexapro dosage increased by atleast 10 mg before i even debate doing that….and i don’t understand this site at all. not making excuses, just giving more honesty and transparency and i really hope it’s understood and not judged anddddd I hope Oscar areas makes some of you happy…and you trust him to do more artwork…my oldest is crying again so i am going to have to shut my ass up for now. again sending better and positive vibes to you all!🤍 tooodddleessss - the wife
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First of all, you need to create your own account so we can pm you instead of Oscar. Secondly, if Oscar sells something, FUCKING SHIP IT! It's that simple. The group buy was what it was. He started it with a job and a healthy wife, not unemployed and a wife spending her pregnancy in the hospital. He did what he had to do. (Think Henry Hill selling drugs in prison in Goodfellas). Make good on every sale moving forward and he can turn this mess around. Communicate with people like he just did this morning. Stop ghosting people. Oscar and I are facebook friends and while I waited for my chips to get shipped (one month) I cringed as I saw pics of trips to Disney thinking "He's enjoying life on my money and I dont have my chips yet!". Oscar has a big heart but when money is involved nobody gives a fuck.
 
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IowaHoldem said:
Im just gonna leave this forum, not been a great experience with a lot of you OG's. Take care.
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Your choice, obviously, and there are certainly some dopes on here who think a lot of years or a lot of posts makes them right about everything, but they are relatively few and easy to put in the “ignore” column. Most folks are great, or at least helpful, as evidenced by how easily they’ll overlook or forgive patterns of negative behavior to find the good in someone. Stick with them.

Also, another plug for @mattross1313 who is the cat’s meow!
 
Okku said:
i appreciate the slight understanding (and honestly even the backlash). i’m used to mom groups where women post their babies shitty diapers asking “is this normal?” and it being some super bright green gritty shit…this group seems to be the opposite. no shitty diapers in here, but instead a shitty situation that my husband has, yet again, gotten himself into *heavy heavy heaavvyyy sigh*.



to all, please let me know if he is lagging on something. i dunno how to reference people buuutttt i saw someone say i should make him a schedule and a to do list. honestly it’s a good idea, just not super ideal. i have tried, but oscar has so much shit going on and i don’t have the attention span to sit and do it and my vyvanse are really only good for part of the day which is spent tending to my kids and being the best mom i can be. like i said before, everyone knows where to find me. we literally have the same last name and it’s not exactly common. shoot me a message on facebook or wherever and i’ll help however i can or even if you just wanna shit talk my husband…i’m perfectly okay with it because it’s IRRITATING!



as far as artwork and such goes, please keep it coming. it’s one of the few things i’ve noticed that oscar genuinely enjoys. he likes the shit that makes his brain go “OOOOO AAAAA WOWWW.” and honestly, it’s been paying a lot of the bills too. full transparency and completely outing our situation here…we have maybeeee like $100 in our account right now. bills eat us alive along with basic living expenses, having a high matinence baby who has some pretty bad eczema and for those who knows how bad it can get..it’s also very expensive, and we need to get the hell out of our apartment before i rip my hair out. that’s a story for another time, but this place is SHIT and not just in a personal opinion kinda way.

also to add the cut card gb?? he miscalculated or something (i don’t care anymore) to the point where we didn’t have the money and so we put the remaining balance on my credit card…which still has almost a 2k balance..because we can’t afford to pay it. i know there are a million ways to make money….the artwork gigs aren’t STABILE income but they help and it’s something that makes oscar happy which he needs….i definitely am on board with a second job or even a job for me…but we genuinely have gotten to the point where we can’t even really spend time together and for those of you who have had kids and have experienced the postpartum period with your s/o…it’s hard and draining. ppd will tear you down and make you want to die. i don’t remember anything from my oldests baby-hood and that’s all thanks to my situation and ppd/ppa/ppp (not blaming not only a select few of you truly know my story…and if you did maybe you’d see where i’m coming from. i’m open to sharing.) oscar and i have tried to prioritize our relationship a bit more but it’s hard. no intimacy, we both knock out the second we hit the bed, and we can’t just “sit on the couch” because our oldests room is directly in front of it and she is a heathen.



i have offered to get a night job. the issue is i’m on meds right now that kinda make it to where i NEED sleep, and with 2 small kids that’s hard enough already. oscar, as dumb as it sounds, also genuinely needs sleep. if oscar doesn’t sleep, his body starts malfunctioning or something because he full on throws up and i still don’t even know why…and he runs to the sink…not even the toilet. i don’t enjoy throw up. nobody does. but if i can avoid it, i absolutely will, which is part of why he does artwork at night.



again, we truly are doing our best given the circumstances. if i could figure out a way to organize all the artwork/messages/orders better, i would, but at the end of the day i am also exhausted. i think i got a total of maybe 2 hours of sleep last night because our oldest is super sick and threw up more times than i can count. baths basically every hour. yes, i have timestamp pics if needed because apparently proof is a thing now, and i will fully admit oscar has burned a lot of bridges and i will be the one to take accountability where i can. oscar helped me because again…I cannot do puke.



today i took her to the doctor and now i’m trying to keep her away from our son because him being born 11 weeks early means if he catches whatever she has, he will end up in the hospital per the pediatrician. we live in a SUPER tiny 2 bedroom apartment so keeping them separated is basically impossible, but that’s what oscar has been helping with today.



basically we’re exhausted, overwhelmed, broke, stressed, and trying our best. oscar isn’t ignoring people because he doesn’t care. life is just genuinely chaos right now and i think a lot of it is that he just wants to make everyone happy, even if he isn’t doing it the right way…he just doesn’t have the words to express how he feels. i promise no ill will is thought about any of you. oscar is far from a scammer. if anything, i’d like for him to get a bit tougher. he once told me if someone broke into our apartment he’d probably try talking to them instead of fighting them, so trust me, he’s far from malicious. (pls help me here ANYONE?)



please keep the artwork stuff coming because it helps mentally and financially more than you guys probably realize. this economy sucks ass for everyone…even if you’re a millionaire. (am i allowed to cuss in here???). i know oscar has realllyyyy been fucking up with people on here, and if something needs attention or he’s lagging on something, message me and i’ll DO my best to help. if you can’t find me…reach out to that bald guy that matches his shoes with the same red and black shirt he wears (i hope i described him good enough) I truly appreciate every single one of you even the ones that haven’t really been the nicest (rightfully so). i was going to make an account on here but i genuinely don’t really care about it, i can just peep without an account, don’t have the time, am too tired and need my Lexapro dosage increased by atleast 10 mg before i even debate doing that….and i don’t understand this site at all. not making excuses, just giving more honesty and transparency and i really hope it’s understood and not judged anddddd I hope Oscar areas makes some of you happy…and you trust him to do more artwork…my oldest is crying again so i am going to have to shut my ass up for now. again sending better and positive vibes to you all!🤍 tooodddleessss - the wife
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I feel for you & the family…had a lot of similar issues when my kids were young.

But…life is hard. Like you said everyone is struggling with finances, and have their own personal issues to deal with.

What most people don’t do is sell chips and fail to ship (then stop communicating), or continue to buy things they can’t afford. Or have their spouse make posts on their behalf to help try to clear their name.

Your post (and other posts made by this account in this thread) outline what sounds like a lot of excuses for his behavior, without much contrition. Not a great look, especially since you’re also asking for more design work.

Oscar still has a lot of fans/friends here, so I’m sure he can salvage his reputation if he resolves all of these issues and stops flaking on people going forward.

Hang in there - things get a little easier as the kids get older.
 
ChipFinderSK said:
I feel for you & the family…had a lot of similar issues when my kids were young.

But…life is hard. Like you said everyone is struggling with finances, and have their own personal issues to deal with.

What most people don’t do is sell chips and fail to ship (then stop communicating), or continue to buy things they can’t afford. Or have their spouse make posts on their behalf to help try to clear their name.

Your post (and other posts made by this account in this thread) outline what sounds like a lot of excuses for his behavior, without much contrition. Not a great look, especially since you’re also asking for more design work.

Oscar still has a lot of fans/friends here, so I’m sure he can salvage his reputation if he resolves all of these issues and stops flaking on people going forward.

Hang in there - things get a little easier as the kids get older.
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I appreciate you holding Oscar accountable. He’s far from the only dad whose family depends on him for financial security. I won’t (nor will my wife) get on here and tell a sob story as to why I’m not fulfilling my end of a deal made in good faith.

That’s because I’d rather miss a meal than come up short on an obligation that I agreed to.

Maybe we’re cut from a different cloth and that’s ultimately a lesson I’ve learned in the past 19 months, but I’m a little disappointed in all of the back patting and hand holding I see from some members here.

Oscar isn’t the victim here. He’s the one who took advantage of his good standing and reputation on this forum and has told numerous untruths as he avoided making good on our deal.

I can assure you I would have sold the chips in question or offered to return them before I let this go on as long as it has.

If in the end I learn a $225 lesson in trust, then I guess that’s what happens, but one thing I’ll know is Oscar took advantage of my generosity on this deal and it’s ridiculous to see all of the excuses accepted as if they’re justifiable.

Just my three cents FWIW…
 
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It's a lot. At some point, despite this being one of your larger social support structures, you need to figure out who your friends are. Because if your close, irl friends from here are those that keep saying "its okay, they're just chips, handle real life, etc.", then they aren't real friends. Because those ones would tell you no, stop.

Life is hard, especially now, especially for a young family facing tribulations. But that's uncomfortable growth. Which over 18+ months, from the PCF/chipping side, there appears to be none. Doesn't mean that's indicative of real life or other arenas. But the apologies, previous and now, are tepid at best. And they're sandwhiched between woe is me comments over trust, "I just can't say no", and "if I don't respond you just need to push me". To share how that might come across, it's like the old interview question "whats your biggest weakness" and interviewee saying "I care too much". For someone so articulate, previous face of a brick and mortar store, and with hundreds of hours on camera, it's a disastrous take - it may be hard to see but with such an ridiculously forgiving group, it's actually kind of a cool opportunity here to apologize, organize, rectify - you're already past the difficult part and now get to just practice the positive steps and skills.

It's amazing the grace this community provides, and that's wonderful. Hopefully those close to you are absolutely taking you to task and wringing you out (I could use some of that too myself).

But really I just commented to say this is a public thread with public comments. As stated, very unique last name. Googleable. In fact, in many, many of Oscar's online postings he specifically highlights places like PCF. I applaud the bravado and blatant honesty, but keep in mind that any 2nd job or night job or other jobs mentioned is 1 google away from stumbling onto a thread depicting their potential employee(s) in either an undependable light (from others) or unstable/difficult situation (from self posts).

I really, truly hope for the best. If this wasn't public, I'd share some insights into personal hardships and silver lining outcomes. I guess it gets easier as they get older? I'd say that what's easy and what's hard just changes. Good luck to you, good luck to us all!
 
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I appreciate this may come across as tone deaf, but you’ve got to look in the mirror at some point and hold yourself accountable to your actions (or lack of).

It sounds like there is a lot going on at home which everyone will wish gets better (and sorry to hear about your dog), BUT, think how does it look to others that you’ve taken their money for chips/art designs (i am assuming the latter has been paid upfront due to disgruntled members) then to ghost and stall on them for months/close to a year, then claim exhaustion/burnout (which I believe) but to then ask for more work - it comes across as insane.

My advice (FWIW) is clear your backlog then go again. Need to install healthy habits or you will continue to spiral. Writing down a to-do list would massively help to keep track of responsibilities/obligations and I find a nice way to clear mental capacity when I know I’ve finished something.

People may disagree but there is a lot of cotton wooling going on here which doesn’t help
 
Blaming OG members for being insensitive is totally bogus as an excuse for simple non communication. Everyone is responsible for their actions, no exceptions. The changes that are needed are simple - organize your life and repair your broken image. It is possible but only if YOU recognize it and attack it head on. Life is full of tough instances, many are affected by adverse circumstances , time to pool your inner resources and work toward fixing things instead of making excuses.
 
BPTDirector said:
Blaming OG members for being insensitive is totally bogus as an excuse for simple non communication. Everyone is responsible for their actions, no exceptions. The changes that are needed are simple - organize your life and repair your broken image. It is possible but only if YOU recognize it and attack it head on. Life is full of tough instances, many are affected by adverse circumstances , time to pool your inner resources and work toward fixing things instead of making excuses.
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And for the love of God, put 2-factor authentication on your PCF login!

Would highly advise deleting some or all of the above posts @Okku .
 
extreme517 said:
The meetups are a beautiful thing! I would encourage everyone to try to make it to at least one.

I was on Chiptalk 20+ years ago, but never attended a meetup until last year. I just arrived in Virginia to attend my 4th now!

Seriously, I was timid and unsure walking into my first one, but was immediately wrapped in and treated like family. I have met some of the most upstanding, interesting, creative, and intelligent people at meetups.
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I wasn't going to bring this up but I want everyone to know @extreme517 is one of the biggest bullies I've ever met. When I was at COTS he came up to me, introduced himself and shook my hand. I think he even smiled. What the hell is that about? He then told a funny joke and everyone laughed. I mean come on, I just got to the party and he immediately launched into that aggression. Ruined my whole night.
 
RadicusScout said:
I wasn't going to bring this up but I want everyone to know @extreme517 is one of the biggest bullies I've ever met. When I was at COTS he came up to me, introduced himself and shook my hand. I think he even smiled. What the hell is that about? He then told a funny joke and everyone laughed. I mean come on, I just got to the party and he immediately launched into that aggression. Ruined my whole night.
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We must all take a stand against this type of behavior as this could be the beginning of the end of the world as we know it.
 
IowaHoldem said:
Im just gonna leave this forum, not been a great experience with a lot of you OG's. Take care.
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First time on the interwebz?

Considering how welcoming and forgiving this place is to newcomers and newbie questions and how helpful members generally are compared to at other forums, one would think it’d be suitable for even the most delicate of snowflakes…
 
Trust is the currency of this forum (and most things in life).
Trust is also like a forest: it takes a long time to grow, but can burn down quickly.
 
Okku said:
also to add the cut card gb?? he miscalculated or something (i don’t care anymore) to the point where we didn’t have the money and so we put the remaining balance on my credit card…which still has almost a 2k balance..because we can’t afford to pay it. - the wife
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Just my thoughts, I think if Oscar was upfront PCF would've paid to get the group buy flowing and have it resolved in 4 months instead of waiting a year.
 
Effectively stealing some members money and then asking for more. I’ve read it all now on PCF

I’ve haven’t been around much the last 6-8 weeks with travel, work etc but this is yet another disturbing thread.

Personally I can’t understand how someone could come back from this. Even if he made everyone whole again.
 
ChippinUp said:
Effectively stealing some members money and then asking for more. I’ve read it all now on PCF

I’ve haven’t been around much the last 6-8 weeks with travel, work etc but this is yet another disturbing thread.

Personally I can’t understand how someone could come back from this. Even if he made everyone whole again.
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I kind of glossed over the wife's (??) post, but reading it again and seeing the request to keep orders coming in is WILD.
 
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