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So funny! (and so true). Thanks for making me laugh so early in the day. :)

This actually is not true. We never bet $100 on where a fly would land. We bet $20 on where a cow would poop and we bet $100 on the color of the next car to drive by the house, but there was never a fly prop bet.

(Bergs pulls out a manila folder that says "BBOTB6 - March Madness 2016" and draws a square on it with the words "Fly Land Prop Bet" next to it)
 
This actually is not true. We never bet $100 on where a fly would land. We bet $20 on where a cow would poop and we bet $100 on the color of the next car to drive by the house, but there was never a fly prop bet.

(Bergs pulls out a manila folder that says "BBOTB6 - March Madness 2016" and draws a square on it with the words "Fly Land Prop Bet" next to it)

I'm going with "on Truman's butt" - $20 - I'll need a live feed.
 
This actually is not true. We never bet $100 on where a fly would land. We bet $20 on where a cow would poop and we bet $100 on the color of the next car to drive by the house, but there was never a fly prop bet.

(Bergs pulls out a manila folder that says "BBOTB6 - March Madness 2016" and draws a square on it with the words "Fly Land Prop Bet" next to it)

Oops, I was off by a year. Thanks for making an honest woman of me!
 
I don't expect to change the opinions of those from the BBotB III, I just intend to fully disclose my side of the story for others who are hearing me being called a racist and have no context in regards to why.

This is wrong Gnu. You were changing opinions for a while. But if you are going to straddle the line with Racial humor, then you may want to avoid jumping into Confederate flag debates, as it will be difficult for others not to connect the dots.

It was not just the humor that was an issue at BBOTB. You were loud, obnoxious and showed poor poker etiquette. It was also obvious however that you were forcing this behavior, and that it was more of a character that you were playing as opposed to the real person. I think you even admitted this after the fact - that you came into the group with a perception, and you were trying too hard to make an impression that you thought would be embraced.

Again, I am not trying to attack you now. I am trying to point out the roots that led to where we are today. Just relax, play cards and talk about chips, and the good natured ribbing, humor and comaraderie will occur naturally over time.
 
Don't have plans to attend the meet-up, but GNU's presence or lack thereof would not be a deciding factor for me.
I've never met him, but if necessary I can ignore anyone in real life, just like here on the forums
 
You stated that I called you a racist. I'm asking when I did so exclusively due to your "humor". Pretty straightforward. Feel free to post any PMs or emails if I did so there.

I will add that others certainly did have that impression at the event. I was at the other table so I only heard your more boisterous outbursts. However, one comment I remember specifically being made was by a non-CTer attendee who said to your face at the table, "I don't think that's a joke. I think that's just racist." He may have said "you're just a racist" rather than "that's just racist", but either way, it's not accurate to say as you do elsewhere that you were only made aware after the event that some of your comments might have been perceived as inappropriate.

I claim you're a racist, not because of racial jokes, but because you told stories that highlighted actual racist behavior in your past and present.

Also, my local friend nick was the one JButler was referring to in the above quote. And he was right. I almost threw you out on the spot, you really find a way to straddle the wrong side of the line.

In addition to the racism, you were obnoxious at the tables, gloating with small wins, slowing down tourney play to take pictures, and leaving the house when you learned that the only game you had a perceived edge in wasn't going to be offered, as you gloated about your $100 win. You were a boorish angle shooter, and would have been annoying even without the crass racism.

I did apologize after that back on the blue wall, as my intent wasn't to offend anyone. Things had settled down with the BBotB group for awhile, and only recently re-escalated when they piled on in a few of my threads, painting me as an evil horrible person because I gave a reduced tip for poor service and because I adopted a silly persona with a telemarketer that called my work.

They take whatever I say and exaggerate or misquote or misconstrue it, and come in their large group to establish a mob mentality to badger me. THEY are the trolls. If they don't like my threads or my posts, they can simply ignore them. They chose not to, and instead follow me around attempting to stir up trouble. THEY are the ones who need help, not I. Look at the thread that Chicken Rob created just to insult me. I didn't even respond to it fwiw.

Non one needs to exaggerate or misquote to get racism from your posts. It may be misconstrued, but you talk out your ass in such volume that it is hard to give you the benefit of the doubt ever.

Your story about Guinness' dick (kidney stone story) was about his experience, not demeaning a whole race of people, you still don't see the difference. In fact, we tell race based and misogynist jokes, but there is a difference in the tone of how they are told. Both context and intent matter when using words, and you seem to have a poor ability to convey the correct tone with regards to either.

I don't know why you insist on pushing forward with this stuff that inflames others, other than you like any possible attention, even negative.

For what it is worth, if you look at my entire post history here and CT, there are countless people I have disagreed with or even disliked on these forums, but there are exactly 2 that I have been public about it, and both started with an effort to help you understand how and why both you and Mojo were alienating everyone in a n effort to allow for some constructive feed back and some growth, and it took quite a bit of piling on before I lost it with either one of you. Similar trends with many people have unfolded. We're not targeting you, we're responding to your ploea for negative attention, and that is our fault.

After this post I'm just going to ignore you moving forward, and I regret ever engaging with you or even allowing you inside my home.
 
Alright, I'll grant you that racism could also apply to a feeling of superiority of one race over another. I poke fun at all ethnicities as well as my own and don't recall ever making any claims of one race being better or worse than another.

So if I don't hate others based on their ethnicity and don't assign them a superiority or inferiority ranking based on their ethnicity how exactly am I a racist? Should I just start making blanket statements that you are an anti-Semite because all you do is grief me at every opportunity?

the following is more than i wanted to say further on this point (which i know will be hard for some to believe), but i feel compelled to say it.

gnu, you asked me how you are a racist. i didn't originally wish to make such an allegation without the facts at hand to support it. in fact, i didn't make such an allegation until you continued to press me to explain whether you are a racist and, if so, why i thought so. i couldn't honestly say that i don't think you're a racist so i admitted that i had formed the opinion at some point that you are.

i also said i didn't care to go back through the previous thread(s) to find the evidence that led me to that conclusion, but on further consideration, i honestly didn't think that was fair. you are right to ask for justification of such an opinion. even if my statement of my belief concerning your racism came only following your question, like you i think that claiming someone else is a racist is an extremely serious thing. equally serious, in my opinion, is allowing someone to make statements or jokes that are racist and to not call them on their bigotry. i believe that unless there are substantial mitigating concerns, people should be confronted about such comments in order to (1) discourage them and others present from making similar comments in the future and (2) demonstrating to anyone who feels that they are being excluded due to the comment made that this is absolutely not the case and that, in fact, it is the individual who has made the comment whom the group wishes to exclude. that's a long rambling way of saying that i felt obligated to support my stated belief.

as i said earlier, i thought it was an impression that had firmed up during the confederate flag thread, but as i read back through (link here), i think i was mistaken. my memory was that at some point i had actually said something very explicit along the lines of "i actually believe you are a racist." i would ordinarily remember having made such a statement because i have worked in debating this topic over the last few years - mostly in person - to internalize the concept j. smooth discusses in the video i posted in the immigration thread (video link here). so i do my best to target my criticism at the statement rather than the person. it's difficult to conclude that a person is racist. it's not nearly so difficult to identify a racist statement. so the fact that i remembered specifically calling you a racist and couldn't find it irked me a bit.

so i thought that it might have occurred sometime on CT. i did find a thread (link here) that i thought would contain my allegation as it was replete with debate about the "jokes" you told at BBotB and previously on CT, but again i couldn't find my statement. i finally broadened my search as much as possible in a desperate attempt to figure out what the hell i was remembering. i googled "'your are a racist' grandgnu" (lmgtfy). and it actually returned one single link and i thought for sure i'd found it, but once again, no.

however, the link it returned was a debate that looked pretty fucking similar to the several that you have engaged in here and on CT regarding your "jokes". but it occurred on 2+2 in 2004. the actual link google returned is here and page one of that long thread is here.

to those who don't want to wade through the thread (i can't say i've waded that far myself, but i've gotten the gist), just take a look at the first post (which is gnu's as he started the thread) and page 15 (!) which is the google result linked to above. you'll see that very, very little has changed. i'm sure he will have defenders in the thread. every opinion will find support on the good ol' internet (mine included thanks to the blow boys), but it is obvious that he was made aware then that his comments are not kind, certainly not for public consumption, and at worst blatantly racist.

i have read some forum posts i made elsewhere 10-15 years ago and they don't exactly provide an ego boost. some are typo-ridden. some are poorly-reasoned. some are shrill. some might say little has changed. but my point is that i don't wish to throw gnu under the bus because some shit he posted 11 years ago is embarrassing. my point is that all his bullshit about how he's just hearing now about how his "jokes" are out of line and how he will try to take that into account in the future is completely transparent nonsense. he is engaging in the same type of demeaning activity now as he was then.

my original intent in finding the reason for my belief about gnu's racism was to provide a good faith explanation on the slim chance that he really didn't see how making "racial" jokes can actually be racist even if that's not one's conscious intention. the slim chance has been reduced to none in my view.

so, gnu, if you want to see why i think you are a racist, read through the links above. i will not engage any longer with you on this topic.
 
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I don't even know why I care but you certainly do yourself no favors on these boards Gnu. You seem to have a cycle of offend, explain, apologize (remember the old olive branch at CT). The cherry on top of the whole BBOTB thing was your sick brag thread of how you won a hundred bucks or something off a bunch of guys who would bet $100 on where a fly would land. To the casual reader it was cringe-worthy. As a complete outsider I suspect you lack some social skills (understatement) and you just try too damn hard to fit in. It seems like where ever you land all your friends love your ethnic jokes and send 'em right back at ya! This is typically not the case in society at large IMO. Even if there is no malice in your humor you need to back it down.

Anyway good luck, and to use a poker term it might help if you try to get a better read on your audience before you go off. And for gosh sakes if you go to this event just relax and don't try to "fit in" and attract attention to yourself.

FWIW if I was going to Fla. Gnu would not stop me, but I'd be uncertain if I'd want to hang out with him anywhere other than the poker table.
I could only LIKE this post once, so quoted for truth. Pretty much sums up the cycle of wannabe to martyr. "I'm such an entertaining rebel / Whatddaya mean I... / Sorry I offended you Sallies my humor is so advanced / The whole world is against me and I'm misunderstood.
 
I have Gnu blocked on PCF (which is odd when people reply to him). His elitist opinions are not permitted in my house, and since my computer is in my house, he has simply been blocked.

I would not invite him to my home game. I have numerous players that are immigrants (I did not card them for legal status), people of color, and at least two others that are in other minority groups that may or may not be readily apparent. His reputation (earned or just perceived) is that his "humor" would likely cause problems.

If I were to attend (13% chance, based off multiple factors), Gnu would not prevent me from attending, but it certainly lowers the chance. I do not want to spend my precious vacation time in the company of someone that is patently offensive (even if they don't think so), but if the number of pleasurable people (everyone I've met so far from PCF) greatly outnumbers the unpleasant ones, then that's the price of admission. I would also eye up other area activities (many available in Florida, but beaches in Feb. are too cold for me) so if he was intolerable, I could simply leave (after going all jammy-jam-jam or calling the "floor" if in a tournament).

In the end, It is up to the host to invite who they like. I base my decision off the host and k9dr gets my seal of approval. My work schedule however, has other plans.
 
Holy shit, just read through the old thread, thank you for posting Butler. I can't deny I'm thick-headed and obnoxious and haven't learned anything. It appears you are right, I'm a fucking idiot and need to tone myself down online and live.

Going to take a break from the forums for a bit and hopefully get myself on a better track, I am offensive and insensitive and need to work on it and not just brush aside others feelings so easily.

edit: changed my avatar, but the pic is really small. That is a dunce cap in case anyone thought it was something else
 
Gnu - after reading this thread as well as your "jokes" with your "friends" I have to say that you may not realize that not only are you more than a wee bit racist but your friends most certainly are, which explains why you all seem to find each other so funny.

Maybe try some of your jokes at the local comedy club and see how they go over if you want another opinion.

I'm just sorry that I didn't ignore this thread.
 
I clearly don't love poker enough and/or have enough free time but there's no way I'd go to an event if this MAH was in attendance. The existance of the the thread answers the threads question. You are all better people than me for even considering this question given all the history/evidence.
 
I sent K9Dr a PM asking him to remove me from the attendance list for the meatup next year for the time being. I really was blind to how out of control I've been until Butler linked back to that old thread. I'm sorry and will take a break and hopefully return at some point with a better approach.
 
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I sent K9Dr a PM asking him to remove me from the attendance list for the meatup next year for the time being. I really was blind to how out of control I've been until Butler linked back to that old thread. I'm sorry and will take a break and hopefully return at some point with a better approach.

I'm confused as to whether that's sarcastic or not (partly because I can't read the 2+2 thread). In either case, I do want to add that I appreciate the time you put into explaining your strategy thread posts. If you want to stick around just in that subforum, there might be a little less conflict overall.
 
I'm confused as to whether that's sarcastic or not (partly because I can't read the 2+2 thread). In either case, I do want to add that I appreciate the time you put into explaining your strategy thread posts. If you want to stick around just in that subforum, there might be a little less conflict overall.

on its face it appears genuine and i hope it is. i can empathize with being ripped back to reality after being out of control in some regard. hopefully whatever growth is need actually occurs. best wishes, gnu.
 
It is sincere and i appreciate the strat compliment

I think i will just lurk for a bit and give it some time. I mean, that post butler found was from 2004 so I've been out of control for awhile and have some serious reflecting to do
 
Holy shit, just read through the old thread, thank you for posting Butler. I can't deny I'm thick-headed and obnoxious and haven't learned anything. It appears you are right, I'm a fucking idiot and need to tone myself down online and live.

Going to take a break from the forums for a bit and hopefully get myself on a better track, I am offensive and insensitive and need to work on it and not just brush aside others feelings so easily.

edit: changed my avatar, but the pic is really small. That is a dunce cap in case anyone thought it was something else


Holy crap, this is about the last thing I expected to see here.

If this post is actually sincere and not rampant sarcasm, then I am truly impressed that perhaps something finally hit home (and upon reading further itt, it appears to be genuine). Realization of the need for self-improvement and growth and then acting upon it is really what life is all about. Even if nothing else comes of this whole shit-slinging mess over the past several days, I think it may have been worth it just to generate this self-realization.

It takes real courage to step up, admit wrongdoings, and genuinely try to change and do better. Until the above post, I had planned on dealing with your presence in FL as diplomatically as possible, hoping (because I'm an optimist) that you would be smart and mature enough to not cause ill feelings in a gracious host's home.

Seeing that you have removed yourself from the attendee list, I now hope that you reconsider....... because I actually look forward to meeting the new gnu. Congrats, I think you've achieved a life lesson milestone. They usually don't come easy, or without some pain and serious reflection. Best of luck.

* disclaimer: sociopaths are excellent liars and story-tellers. I hope this isn't the case, but only time will tell.
 
Well, I think we've made some excellent progress today!
 
This actually is not true. We never bet $100 on where a fly would land. We bet $20 on where a cow would poop and we bet $100 on the color of the next car to drive by the house, but there was never a fly prop bet.

(Bergs pulls out a manila folder that says "BBOTB6 - March Madness 2016" and draws a square on it with the words "Fly Land Prop Bet" next to it)

I'm itchy for the golf tournament. I've been working on my Driver putting.

Holy shit, just read through the old thread, thank you for posting Butler. I can't deny I'm thick-headed and obnoxious and haven't learned anything. It appears you are right, I'm a fucking idiot and need to tone myself down online and live.

Going to take a break from the forums for a bit and hopefully get myself on a better track, I am offensive and insensitive and need to work on it and not just brush aside others feelings so easily.

edit: changed my avatar, but the pic is really small. That is a dunce cap in case anyone thought it was something else

Lol not real

In addition to the racism, you were obnoxious at the tables, gloating with small wins, slowing down tourney play to take pictures, and leaving the house when you learned that the only game you had a perceived edge in wasn't going to be offered, as you gloated about your $100 win. You were a boorish angle shooter, and would have been annoying even without the crass racism.

I second this. People complaining about others play is funny. Gloating and celebrating as much as I saw is really annoying.
 
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