Would you ban a player for... (2 Viewers)

[WedgeRock]

this might be better handled with a off-group chat with him basically stating "I love tolerate having you at my game, but your actions after a couple start to impact everyone's enjoyment."

Fixed.

 

[ReallyGoodUsername]

"settle down Flower Boy!". That set Bob off!

 

[WedgeRock]

I wanna pledge TKE, they’re my first choice, said nobody ever .

What's with the personal insults? I am not a fraternity guy, but I like @TKEUofM and his fraternity brothers that play in his game. And my brother was also a TKE. There's other members here that I know are TKEs too. All good people. Other than occasionally coming up in conversation, you don't hear much about the fraternity days...

Seriously, you should get to know a guy before you throw generalizations out based on a common characteristic or a screen name.

 

[Cratty]

Calling people soft for not wanting credible threats of violence at a friendly home game is a take…

Honestly, being OK with that kind of stuff comes off younger, not older. Most of us are just trying to have a fun, low-drama game in our own homes with friends and sometimes even family around, not prove how tough we are. Some light ribbing and banter is part of the game, no issue there - but there’s a pretty clear line between that and talking about bloody noses. If someone can’t handle a bad beat & banter without going there, they’re probably just not a good fit for that environment.

 

[raynmanas]

Hahaha this is the most frat thing I’ve ever read.

here's a more frat thing for you to read:

don't disrespect us by calling our fraternity a frat! would you like it if i called your country a c*nt?

*edit* i now realize this might not read as sarcasm. i wasn’t in a fraternity - this is just a thing the guys in the only frat at my college used to say. so to me, it’s the most “frat” thing i’ve ever heard.

 

[TKEUofM]

What's with the personal insults? I am not a fraternity guy, but I like @TKEUofM and his fraternity brothers that play in his game. And my brother was also a TKE. There's other members here that I know are TKEs too. All good people. Other than occasionally coming up in conversation, you don't hear much about the fraternity days...

Seriously, you should get to know a guy before you throw generalizations out based on a common characteristic or a screen name.

It's funny how 50 other people responded with a comment just like mine saying threat of violence is an instant ban. But the dude decides to attack me on my response and not anyone else. Sounds like he hates TKE fraternity (which come on, I was in college 30 years ago, I don't care anymore). Or he hates Michigan, then whatever. Or he just hates me..... which I've never met him so it's gotta be #1 or #2. Either way, weak.

 

[TKEUofM]

Hahaha this is the most frat thing I’ve ever read.

Hahahahah, TOUCHE! Caught me on that one. lol

 

[doublebooyah85]

here's a more frat thing for you to read:

don't disrespect us by calling our fraternity a frat! would you like it if i called your country a c*nt?

*edit* i now realize this might not read as sarcasm. i wasn’t in a fraternity - this is just a thing the guys in the only frat at my college used to say. so to me, it’s the most “frat” thing i’ve ever heard.

Haha took me a few minutes to decide if it was sarcasm in fun or not lol

 

[WedgeRock]

Either way, weak.

Look at you, quoting our fight song.

 

[TKEUofM]

Haha took me a few minutes to decide if it was sarcasm in fun or not lol

Definitely me being a smart ass.

 

[BPTDirector]

I personally would give a warning, just one, in front of both parties involved, a general, hey we don’t treat each other like that - a second infraction would see them at the very bottom Of my list with a note that I would ask everyone else playing if they wanted to play with him to fill a seat or not. No room to alienate any of your good players, you have to keep them.

 

[CraigT78]

beat when 67s

 

[Andrew Marks]

Home games are always a balance of a number of factors: 1) the number of players in your player pool; 2) the personalities of the players including the possiblity that certain players are set off by other players; and 3) whether you value the social aspect over the gambling/winning/money aspect. Our group has had a weekly game for close to 25 years. People have come and gone on their own, but several of those players who have left were known for certain annoying behaviors and so we were not really sad to see them go. There have been isolated incidents where I took it upon myself to speak to an offending player to try and get them to realize that their behavior bothered others. Depending upon the person, that sometimes worked and sometime did not. When it did not, those players ultimately left organically. Don't forget that poker is a competitive sport and that can bring out the worst in some people. On the other hand, some people are just jerks and bad behavior is just part of their personality.

You might try reaching out to the offending player (or to his friend who brought him in) if you think it is worthwhile keeping him in the game (or you need bodies to make a game). If not, don't invite him to future games. He will certainly get the message. Then, if he cares, he is likely to reach out to you directly or through his friend to find out why he is no longer invited. At that point you can tell him the issues and then it is up to you as to whether the result of that conversation was sufficient to invite him back (perhaps on a 1- or 2-game trial basis)

 

[ekricket]

I personally would give a warning, just one, in front of both parties involved, a general, hey we don’t treat each other like that - a second infraction would see them at the very bottom Of my list with a note that I would ask everyone else playing if they wanted to play with him to fill a seat or not. No room to alienate any of your good players, you have to keep them.

I already raised kids. I’m not raising anyone else’s kids, no matter how old they are.
I also do not run a democracy at my house, you don’t get to vote to keep your asshole buddy.

 

[KHarp1]

I'm 60 now, so it's been a while, but the TKE's had the best parties at the University of Louisville. So I'm a +1 for the TKE based solely on those great parties.

 

[legend672]

Sounds like you were rejected back in the day. Sorry you weren’t offered a bid. I guess some grudges never die.

TKE never rejected anyone. You know what they say. If you can’t go Greek, go TKE home of goobers everywhere . I saw it on the internet so it must be true. I suppose you guys would never play golf with a guy again just because he wrapped his driver around the ball washer after a toe hook out of bounds

 

[Old State]

I always felt the fraternity culture was cringe. This confirms it.