New Guy Etiquette in Home Games (2 Viewers)

If I don’t take a new setup of cards or a different gift for the host, I’ll take a bottle of some kind to show my appreciation for being invited. Or one of my many food specialties if they are offering a buffet or food.

And be respectful of others’ homes.
I host twice weekly and will bring $5 in tips a session. Maybe. There are a couple of guys (Chippers - no surprise) that throw a little paper into the bucket at the end of the night and bring a sweet for everyone to share.

I’m the guy that got flamed here for trying to openly discuss tipping.

I’ve got a poker chip addiction people!
 
There are a lot of specific threads addressing etiquette questions in home games, but I couldn’t find a general one regarding how one behaves as a new player in a long-standing home game…

Maybe this will be it? Or maybe not. Anyway, I noticed something at a friend’s game this week that got me thinking about the topic.

Will post that in the next message, but if people have general HGE thoughts/unwritten rules, fire away.

If a new guy shows up and is an asshat at all, he doesn't get invited back. If he acts like that the first time he shows up. How is he going to act once he gets comfortable. Fuck him. We are all adults. He should know how to act at someone's house.
 
We can all post and think up long rule lists for various scenarios but is it really needed or should it be? A fellow chipper game I've played at typically calls out to guests that his one rule is no Duschebaggery. Simple and to the point. Why should anyone have to specifically list oodles of rules to maintain a certain level of respect for the house and other players?

I don't care how shorthanded I am for players. I have no tolerance for smoking.
My mom smoked around me growing up and thought it was funny that I was bothered by the smell or fact she burned holes in things accidentally all the time.
Mother in law died of cancer from smoking as well.
If my players smoke they do it during break outside and put the butts in a can or bottle. If I chewed gum or suckers would it be OK to throw my wrapper or stick on the floor or in your yard?
Why smokers don't typically understand the decency of proper disposal is beyond me. I'd love to throw something burning into the vehicle of every smoking driver that tosses their butts out the window while driving too. Thankfully none of my regulars smoke and hopefully it stays that way.

Most games I've played swayed to on the fly majority or dealers choice rules for everything else. Miss a hand because you need to go smoke then go somewhere else.

Playing another game on your phone at a game is just ridiculous. I woulda just dealt the guy out. Eyes on the action or no action. Answering a text or call is one thing but a game cmon.
 
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There are a lot of specific threads addressing etiquette questions in home games, but I couldn’t find a general one regarding how one behaves as a new player in a long-standing home game…

Maybe this will be it? Or maybe not. Anyway, I noticed something at a friend’s game this week that got me thinking about the topic.

Will post that in the next message, but if people have general HGE thoughts/unwritten rules, fire away.
This is me a bunch. My personal rules:
-I am a newbie. Keep mouth shut until I read the room
-I am a guest. Be polite to the host and be a good guest.
-Don't believe what you hear. People will tell you "you better watch that guy, he likes to raise, or he's the best player". People are idiots. Make your own impression.
-Be polite, but stick up for yourself. Don't let bullies run over you.
-Hold back on the desire to earn respect. Play your game, and be patient. Don't shuffle chips. Let people assume you are a moron (at cards, at least). Don't show bluffs.
 
Straight up, the guy this thread was written about is used to a different type of game. He is used to underground games, or a card room where it is perfectly acceptable to do all the things he did. Somebody else deals, collects cards, pushes pots. There is no expected niceties, because he is paying to play. At these type games, you can generally get up and leave whenever you want. All standard fare for the games mentioned above.

Some people just suck, but most would probably have behaved differently if given the knowledge of what is expected at a home game versus a raked game.
 
Straight up, the guy this thread was written about is used to a different type of game. He is used to underground games, or a card room where it is perfectly acceptable to do all the things he did. Somebody else deals, collects cards, pushes pots. There is no expected niceties, because he is paying to play. At these type games, you can generally get up and leave whenever you want. All standard fare for the games mentioned above.

Some people just suck, but most would probably have behaved differently if given the knowledge of what is expected at a home game versus a raked game.

Rake him then lol.

I mean he already goes to tip dealer. Would he even notice if he's the only one paying rake?
 
Yeah this guys a clown but I don’t mind when a player leaves early. As long as they come frequently. I want some of my guests to score a win and leave. Bc if most stick around until they end, they will lose lol
 
One of the game’s regs has worked for years with special needs youth. After the New Guy left, he said “That guy seems like he’s on the spectrum,” maybe Aspergers, he thought.

My sense was just that he was kind of an antisocial dick. (Maybe that’s the same thing... I’m not up on all the trendy diagnoses.)

The odd thing about New Guy not making an effort is that the player who brought him knows him socially from elsewhere, and their wives are friends. So he had some extra incentive to respect the game a bit more.
 
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One of the game’s regs has worked for years with special needs youth. After the New Guy left, he said “That guy seems like he’s on the spectrum,” maybe Aspergers, he thought.

My sense was just that he was kind of an antisocial dick. (Maybe that’s the same thing... I’m not up on all the trendy diagnoses.)

The odd thing about New Guy not making an effort is that the player who brought him knows him socially from elsewhere, and their wives are friends. So he had some extra incentive to respect the game a bit more.
Doesnt sound Aspergers. Maybe, but the players/family Ive known with it often hyper fixate on games to an annoying degree; if they're stimming using something else they're bored, and I wouldn't think someone coming to a new game to also play on his phone would be bored.

Could be misreading but also work with special education, and most of my boys are chopping Omaha pots before I can calculate lol.
 
I will usually tell my group at the beginning of the session when I think I'll be leaving, especially if it's early/earlier (we often play on Tuesday nights and I usually have to be at work around 0500/0530 on Wednesdays). If I happen to win a big pot right before then, I will at least stay an extra orbit. (That didn't work out so well for me the other night - lost about $260 during that last orbit, 6 handed... ouch! :( )

Also agree with not showing up empty handed (even if it's just a case of bottled water or couple of bags of ice) and ESPECIALLY if you're late...
 
Hitting and running, isn’t cool, and definitely shouldn’t be made a habit, but occasionally people do have to leave. At mid-level steaks and hire where there’s people to buy back in some action it’s usually not the biggest deal, but it micro steaks where people aren’t reloading. It sucks when someone takes a sizable chunk of the table.

However, though, I personally have never minded and almost like when we get a drop in players somewhere throughout the night. As long as it doesn’t, leave us short handed in the beginning. Not only does a mid game edition inject a little newcash flow giving some players a spot to make a comeback, it also can change the dynamic of the play and shift how people need to play keeping it interesting
 
Hitting and running, isn’t cool, and definitely shouldn’t be made a habit, but occasionally people do have to leave. At mid-level steaks and hire where there’s people to buy back in some action it’s usually not the biggest deal, but it micro steaks where people aren’t reloading. It sucks when someone takes a sizable chunk of the table.

However, though, I personally have never minded and almost like when we get a drop in players somewhere throughout the night. As long as it doesn’t, leave us short handed in the beginning. Not only does a mid game edition inject a little newcash flow giving some players a spot to make a comeback, it also can change the dynamic of the play and shift how people need to play keeping it interesting

Dammit

Stakes not steaks

Addition not edition
 
You’re all a lot politer than my crowd. He would be told to that either his phone gets to fuck or he gets to fuck.

You should see the abuse I get when I take my phone out to take a picture for the “show us your live stacks” thread :ROFL: :ROFLMAO:
 
You’re all a lot politer than my crowd. He would be told to that either his phone gets to fuck or he gets to fuck.

You should see the abuse I get when I take my phone out to take a picture for the “show us your live stacks” thread :ROFL: :ROFLMAO:
”Taking another photo for yer sissy internet poker chip friends, are ya?”
 
He is an asshole or/and casino player....
You have no obligation to invite him again or educate, absolutely up to you.
 
No playing on line poker at the animal house. If the animal house is not enough action for you go somewhere else or stay home a play on line. A few other rules to follow:

1. Take a dump at your own house before you come over. Emergencies are one thing, but there should never be a waiting line.
2. Take a shower at your own house before you come over. Don’t come over smelling like ass.
3. Throw your trash away ……. in one of the 3 fu!king trash cans I have around the room.
4. Put your cigarette butts in a cup and throw them away at the end of the night. Do not leave them in my yard so the dog can eat them.
5. Be nice to my chips…… or be gone.
6. Be nice to my set up ….. or be gone.
7. Be nice to the other players ….. or be gone.
8. Be nice to the dealer …… hmmmmm….. well, there is some leeway here.

I am sure I will think of more….. flipping squirrels!
Think I might print these out :tup:

@BillyBluff anything to add after joining my game? :ROFL: :ROFLMAO: The only thing I can mark you down on was winning your first session, at least you took care of that second time around :cool
 

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