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Our local home game is a fairly splashy 1/1 NLHE, (buy-ins of $100-200, with basically no cap for rebuys later). We have a pretty good mix of experienced regs, and some guys who show up occasionally.

Thursday evening, there was a situation between an experienced player, and a very inexperienced new guy. "Reggie the Reg" is in his 50's with plenty of disposable income (will often be in for $1000+), and lots of experience playing live poker. He's generally great to have in the game, both socially and for action. "Newman the Newb" is mid-20's, and has only played in our game a handful of times. I'm not sure if he had ever played live poker before joining us. Very passive in general, sometimes doesn't pay attention to the action, still not sure of rules or etiquette, but very pleasant. He has lost a few buy-ins the couple times I've played with him, but tonight he's up a little.

Reggie and Newman are in a hand, about $200 in the pot and Newman jams on the river for ~$100. Reggie goes into the tank, and is talking, as he often does in this situation. He offers Newman $5 to show a card, but Newman is confused. He then says "will you show a card for $25", to which Newman says yes, but still seems unsure what is happening. Reggie throws him a $25 chip, but Newman looks around questioningly. We explained that Reggie wants him to turn one of his cards over for info, but Newman thought he meant he was folding and the was paying just to see the one card. We explain that he doesn't have to show, and can return the chip to Reggie, who is a bit bugged, because they had a "gentlemen's agreement" and we interfered. We told Reggie that he clearly didn't understand what's going on, and to let it go.

After some more tanking, Reggie turns over his cards to try to get a reaction. Again confused, Newman begins to turn his cards over, thinking Reggie had called. Our host who was sitting near Newman, said no, and physically stopped him from turning over his cards. We had to explain what was happening to Newman. At this point, Reggie is pissed at us for interfering, but we told him for the sake of the game, it's better for us to protect the new player. Reggie eventually folded, and Newman showed his hand, which was a better flush than Reggie's. He complained a little bit more, but didn't push back too hard.

Obviously, at a casino, it would be different, but did we do right by inserting ourselves in the interaction? Did Reggie have a right to be pissed?
 
I thought I would read "protecting the newbie" in terms of hard lessons learned at not playing a circus game correctly or misunderstanding someone else "behind behind" with a cash buy in w/ not having chips, or just the intricacies of strategy after doing something objectively dumb in a hand (although that certainly is not reserved for newbies). Those are "learning the hard way" where experience and/or money lost will teach that lesson best.

It sounds here like you are protecting a newbie from getting angled, when not knowing what is happening or what the angle actually is. You teach that lesson the way you did, with a one-time verbal teaching moment, or else you are welcoming future angling on not yet revealed angles.

Do what you do, your ethics are obviously sound. Except online, lose more money to me asshole.
 
If this exact scenario played out between two long time regular players who know each other, Reggie would be correct.

In the case though, it’s pretty obvious that he was completely taking advantage of a new player and you all were right to step in to protect Newman.

Reggie needs a polite but stern talking to. If you don’t police behavior like this you are fostering a hostile environment and will never grow your game.
 
Yeah this is bullshit. However, I don’t think the angling player is the most evil person in the world. Poker at your stakes gets competitive but I would totally be okay to walk your newbie thru what happened and assist as you did.

The other night we had a player call $200 on the river thinking he had a low hand, and his hand didn’t even qualify. The experienced player returned the $200 river bet in good etiquette. He kept the rest of the pot bc the loser did have a low nut draw but just didn’t get there and he thought he did.
 
Reggie is angling on a clearly vulnerable player at a home game. Its shitty behavior from a reg. Reggie can stfu.
I hate to say this, but I agree with car parts.

My initial reaction when reading just the title was to insert a ‘jumping out of the burning fire pan into the fire gif’ and let ‘em sink or swim cliche, but this aint one of those.

Reggie knew exactly what he was doing and not cool in a home game.

This played out like one of the many calls Bart Hanson gets on Crush Live Poker from the Newmans of the world when they call in. There’s a ton of different angles that go on with this kinda shit, and for me it’s a no no in a ‘home game’. I’d definitely step in and stop/call it out.
 
I’m confident we did the right thing, and I’m pretty sure Reggie will agree when we discuss it later.

His actions weren’t out of the ordinary for our game. Speech play, negotiating to see a card, turning over your own hand, etc happens regularly in heads up situations.

If it were anyone besides Newman, it would have been a nothing burger.
 
I think you did the right thing.
We always step in and help the novice players along with players that were obviously not understanding the play.
We play for low stakes, bragging rights, food and conversation. Not to make money off and take advantage of who we invite to play with us like it's a job to pay the bills.
May be different in a large tournament, bar, or casino setting but at a personal regular home game? Cmon, don't take advantage of people you'd like to play often with or one or the other will quit playing.

Similar play between friends that do understand whats going on would also have been much different just like most have said. Would have been caught and been non-issue. Clarifying can still be nice if someone is having an off day tho too. We arent all perfect.
Id rather be lucky than have an ego thinking I'm good.
 
;) Yeah this is bullshit. However, I don’t think the angling player is the most evil person in the world. Poker at your stakes gets competitive but I would totally be okay to walk your newbie thru what happened and assist as you did.

The other night we had a player call $200 on the river thinking he had a low hand, and his hand didn’t even qualify. The experienced player returned the $200 river bet in good etiquette. He kept the rest of the pot bc the loser did have a low nut draw but just didn’t get there and he thought he did.
The experienced player sounds like a very good guy ;)


Definitely agree with the above comments about protecting new players. Helping the Newb understand what was going on is the right thing to do. While I don’t think the Reg is a piece of shit for trying those things, his reaction was shitty.
 
If it were anyone besides Newman, it would have been a nothing burger.
I have let a lot of antics between regular players slide.

Example: player A goes all in on the river, player B calls. Player A tables his hand, player B shakes his head and goes “you’re good,” and makes a motion like he’s about to muck his hand. Player A starts dragging in the pot, when player B turns over the winning hand and pulls the pot back his way. Table went crazy laughing.

Against any other player I’m going nuclear, awarding player A the pot and black listing player B. In this instance though it was banter between friends escalating, and something we still laugh about. Context is everything.
 
I don’t think Reggie was trying to angle, but you protected a newbie from getting angled by himself. Otherwise Reggie is a jackass if he thought he could confuse the new player into showing a live hand. I'm sure he was just mucking face up, and I would narrate that so he could confirm

Obviously, you did the right thing
 
IMO, you did the right thing, even though it probably wouldn't fly in a casino.

NLHE already has an inherent problem where new and/or inexperienced players get skinned and never return. Having someone angle shoot them relentlessly isn't good for the long term health of a home game (IMO)

Protecting your home game may require ensuring that inexperienced players fully understand what is happening. I think in addition to the actions that you have taken, it might be helpful to have a conversation with Newman, and explain that if he doesn't fully understand what a player is saying or doing, he should always ask "is that a call?" or "is that a fold?" before showing his hand.
 
Not sure I can add anything from what’s been said. You did the right thing. I’d have a private conversation with Reggie and explain as host, filling seats is a massive responsibility. Reggie bullying noobs and trying to angle them is simply bad for the whole table and health of your game. Isn’t beating up on noobs easy enough without the “extra help”?
 
I’m ALL for personal responsibility at the poker table, but not when somebody is getting angled. If somebody doesnt understand what’s going on, and somebody else uses that to their advantage, that’s probably angling.

Is Reggie an idiot? Because once he finds out Newman didn’t understand the “show me one card” transaction, then he should know there actually was not a gentleman’s agreement.
Similarly, there’s nothing wrong with opening your hand to get a reaction. But when the other guy starts to open his hand in response, while action is still pending, then Reggie should stop it himself. And he definitely shouldn’t scold other people for doing so.

Maybe Reggie is a dullard or maybe Reggie was drunk. Otherwise, he’s angling.
 
Not only protect the new player but have a talk with the host about Reggie. This isn't just some honest accident. He knows he's angling an inexperienced player. This behavior is unacceptable and will ultimately harm the game (frankly it already has).
 
Not only protect the new player but have a talk with the host about Reggie. This isn't just some honest accident. He knows he's angling an inexperienced player. This behavior is unacceptable and will ultimately harm the game (frankly it already has).
I didnt want to sound too over the top in my original comment but 100% agree. The guy who does this probably isnt as "good for the game" as you think if hes not a massively losing player.
 
I didnt want to sound too over the top in my original comment but 100% agree. The guy who does this probably isnt as "good for the game" as you think if hes not a massively losing player.
It would take a hell of a losing rate to compensate for this kind of behavior.
 
Yeah this is bullshit. However, I don’t think the angling player is the most evil person in the world. Poker at your stakes gets competitive but I would totally be okay to walk your newbie thru what happened and assist as you did.

The other night we had a player call $200 on the river thinking he had a low hand, and his hand didn’t even qualify. The experienced player returned the $200 river bet in good etiquette. He kept the rest of the pot bc the loser did have a low nut draw but just didn’t get there and he thought he did.
Wait a minute….. are you now playing big o at your game???
 
After some more tanking, Reggie turns over his cards to try to get a reaction. Again confused, Newman begins to turn his cards over, thinking Reggie had called. Our host who was sitting near Newman, said no, and physically stopped him from turning over his cards. We had to explain what was happening to Newman. At this point, Reggie is pissed at us for interfering, but we told him for the sake of the game, it's better for us to protect the new player.

If he is legitimately pissed off, he is running an angle and taking advantage of an inexperienced player.

At a minimum he needs a good talking to. Frankly, he probably should be kicked in the nuts.

If we aren't doing these things, then why is he being invited to play?
 
Our local home game is a fairly splashy 1/1 NLHE, (buy-ins of $100-200, with basically no cap for rebuys later). We have a pretty good mix of experienced regs, and some guys who show up occasionally.

Thursday evening, there was a situation between an experienced player, and a very inexperienced new guy. "Reggie the Reg" is in his 50's with plenty of disposable income (will often be in for $1000+), and lots of experience playing live poker. He's generally great to have in the game, both socially and for action. "Newman the Newb" is mid-20's, and has only played in our game a handful of times. I'm not sure if he had ever played live poker before joining us. Very passive in general, sometimes doesn't pay attention to the action, still not sure of rules or etiquette, but very pleasant. He has lost a few buy-ins the couple times I've played with him, but tonight he's up a little.

Reggie and Newman are in a hand, about $200 in the pot and Newman jams on the river for ~$100. Reggie goes into the tank, and is talking, as he often does in this situation. He offers Newman $5 to show a card, but Newman is confused. He then says "will you show a card for $25", to which Newman says yes, but still seems unsure what is happening. Reggie throws him a $25 chip, but Newman looks around questioningly. We explained that Reggie wants him to turn one of his cards over for info, but Newman thought he meant he was folding and the was paying just to see the one card. We explain that he doesn't have to show, and can return the chip to Reggie, who is a bit bugged, because they had a "gentlemen's agreement" and we interfered. We told Reggie that he clearly didn't understand what's going on, and to let it go.

After some more tanking, Reggie turns over his cards to try to get a reaction. Again confused, Newman begins to turn his cards over, thinking Reggie had called. Our host who was sitting near Newman, said no, and physically stopped him from turning over his cards. We had to explain what was happening to Newman. At this point, Reggie is pissed at us for interfering, but we told him for the sake of the game, it's better for us to protect the new player. Reggie eventually folded, and Newman showed his hand, which was a better flush than Reggie's. He complained a little bit more, but didn't push back too hard.

Obviously, at a casino, it would be different, but did we do right by inserting ourselves in the interaction? Did Reggie have a right to be pissed?

Great work, host. It's beneficial to the game and camaraderie to handle things as you did with a novice. Well done!

In the future, Newman has to be aware of these particular "angles" now that he's seen them. He can choose to interact with the angler or just ignore him. But at least now he knows (or should).
 

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