Would you play live poker with a member on “ignore”? (1 Viewer)

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Would you attend a meetup, or play live poker with someone on your “ignore” list?

I’ve pondered attending some events, but some include members that really bother me. I felt, in my best interest, it was better to stay away. Maybe you don’t have an ignore list, which great. I’m not as thick skinned, and I like the feature.

was curious as to what others think about it.

mark
 
Toby said:
Sure, why not!

It's not like you can hug it out online, so why not attend and let the healing begin!






* Subject to local Covid restrictions, natch
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Agree with this 100%. Depending on the nature of why the user was placed on the ignore list, to begin with. A lot is lost in online communication and we would all most probably get along in person solely due to our shared love of poker chips. I'm definitely more annoying in real life than online so I might just be the exception to the rule.
 
I also think its a good chance to get know someone in a different way and to see that you might even have some things in common. But of course it depends on what type of "conflict" you had with the member. If you got threatened to be bitch slapped for example maybe not so much (or even more depending on your krav maga skills ;)).
 
I'd probably go, since most people are nicer IRL than online. It probably also depends if it's a big or small meet up. If it's a small group based on a single table and activities as a small group I would stay away. If it's one of the bigger meetups with 20+ people, I would go. There's a good chance the ignored person won't be that toxic/annoying /whatever in real life, and even if they are, there are enough other people around that you can probably try to dodge him most of the time. (Just hope not to get HU with I'm in the tourney, because you will be bound to loose going on tilt before you even start.)
 
I don't ignore members. There are a few that I probably should. If I did, there might be some I've played with already, or would play with, or would play with again, but probably not all of them.
 
Putting on my rose colored glasses

I have always thought that one of the greatest things was that no matter what you think or which way you lean everyone could sit down at a table and generally get along while playing poker.

Also at a meet up if they are still annoying you change tables. But also most people will act civil while a guest at someone’s house.
 
I’d go. I wouldn’t let someone that I consider an asshat ruin my fun. Meetups have multiple tables so it is easy enough to avoid sitting at the same table as someone you don’t like.

Also the vast majority or people are on their best behavior at someone’s house. They aren’t going to stir up shit and cause stress for the host.

I’ve heard many times from people that “person X” can be real annoying online but acts completely different live.
 
I look at it this way. When i hit the casino and play a MTT, I’m probably playing with 20-30 people that day (if I survive long enough.) it’s almost certain that some of those people are people I wouldn’t want to spend a minute with, in real life. But at the poker table, I’m fine with 99% of them.
 
krafticus said:
Would you attend a meetup, or play live poker with someone on your “ignore” list?

I’ve pondered attending some events, but some include members that really bother me. I felt, in my best interest, it was better to stay away. Maybe you don’t have an ignore list, which great. I’m not as thick skinned, and I like the feature.

was curious as to what others think about it.

mark
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Not much to add to all the above Mark. As they've said, online personalities not always match the real life ones. In most cases, one will be pleasantly surprised, in some, not so much.

I divide live poker in two: home and casinos. For home games, my objective is to have a great time with friends. If someone at the game gets in the way of me doing so, I rather not play. Some people can manage that a lot better than I can and just tune out the annoying ones. I have not reached that point yet unfortunately. Casino poker is a bit different, it is all about the game itself and I'm a bit more lenient towards assholes depending on a number of circumstances and I can always change tables or go grab a bite.

So I would give a chance to an ignored member unless you already had a bad personal experience with the person and if so, then it's about how much you can tolerate the person and still enjoy the rest of the crowd.
 
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Up to you. If they bother you that much that you will nave not fun, I would skip it.
Had same problem and just started avoiding some places.
 
Why wouldn't you want to see what the perosn is like IRL? You don't have to spend the night with them, its a group event.

People suck, welcome to the world.
 
Should the host of an event "curate" the invitation list? I think yes.

What should we think of an ignored member as tournament director? Is there going to be doubts about the integrity of the game? The person handling the chips has plenty of ways to help themselves out.

I worked with all sorts of unsavory clients in my life. An astonishing assortment of adulterers, frauds, thieves, hate mongers, racists etc. As much or more so in the executive ranks that I saw every time is visited the company's campus. You learn to just hold your nose, keep your eyes open / but not share your opinions about people's personal lives. It got hard when we uncovered criminals though - no one wants to find out a key part of leadership is defrauding the company.

I think a poker meat-up would work the same way. There are some dubious people in our midst. I can smile at the table. Be good for the game and all that. But still, I would be keeping a careful eye out for shenanigans. Morally defective people seem like excellent candidates for cheats.

Trust, but verify indeed -=- DrStrange
 
Probably not heads up for a large portion of time.

But at a meetup, where I know there is bound to be fun? Sure thing.
 
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Lol
I put up with a lot of people live that I would never consider being friends with. Why would I do that? They are fish and I like fish in the game so I'm going to be nice even if I don't feel like it.
 
krafticus said:
Would you attend a meetup, or play live poker with someone on your “ignore” list?

I’ve pondered attending some events, but some include members that really bother me. I felt, in my best interest, it was better to stay away. Maybe you don’t have an ignore list, which great. I’m not as thick skinned, and I like the feature.

was curious as to what others think about it.

mark
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I think it’s much easier to like someone at the poker table for a couple games in person than online. I know if I were interacting with some of the people I regularly play poker with one. Forum I would want to kill them (I have enough issues with them on our group chat), but playing in person is (almost) always a blast.
 
In tennis, I don't mind playing against guys I can't stand -- and it's even better if we win. But to play with someone I don't like as a partner? No way.

Luckily in poker, we usually don't have to play in partnership with anyone. I figure I can stand being seated at a table with anyone who can stand being seated at a table with me.

Even that boisterous anti-Canuck Martino guy...
 
Yes, I'd go. It's not like it's a double-date with the ignored guy and his wife. It's just a poker game. You probably won't have to expend a lot of energy interacting with the guy, and you may even have the pleasure of crushing him at the table.

My only caveat: If dude is on my ignore list for a particularly unfortunate reason, like he tried to rip me off or otherwise can't be trusted, I'd bring that up with the host. Hosts should know about this kind of stuff.
 
If I've never met them in person I would give them a chance at least, and make a decision after the first in person interaction
 
Yep, unless there was a group of dingleberries attending, I'm going.
 
@krafticus , I've attended a lot of meet ups and universally I've found the people who have been difficult online (or even been people I disagreed with) to be good people and I've enjoyed the time with each of them. I try to remember that disagreements online miss the context of personal connection.

I wouldn't make that decision based on online persona. If you go and don't want to go back, or maybe aren't invited back, or don't want to invite them back, then that's that. Don't shut off potential friends because you are afraid that you may not like someone based on their online persona.
 
Which event are we talking about lol.

Let's play a fun game of guess the asshat.

PS my vote is for go as well.
 

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