Ok y'all, give me your take on this situation... (1 Viewer)

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First of all I love to play anytime I can, home games or at a casino... I was recently invited to a home game where I didn't know 90% of the players.. Everyone was very welcoming, and friendly but there was so much table talk that I didn't enjoy myself.. Im talking LOUD chatter just constantly all night. So I gave it another shot about a week later and it was the same way.. So im still getting invites to this game, and feel bad if I tell them the real reason I won't be back.. Should I just tell them the real reason ??
 
Was it loud and slow play? If so, then I'm definitely out. If there is still descent speed of play, I could tolerate it. I probably would not tell the host the real reason.
 
Long as you don't make it sound like they are the problem, but like sheikh suggested something along the lines of that it's too loud for your taste, I'd say it's perfectly polite.
Of course there's a white lie approach and a direct and honest approach to it. I don't think there's a right or wrong here, just personal preference.
 
Yeah it was terribly loud and play wasn't real slow, but lots of mistakes made dealing by not paying attention.. just not my type of game..
 
IMO as long as people are keeping track of the action and are not playing slow, the more table talk the merrier. Now if it's just LOUD because there's background music on and people are practically yelling over it, that's another story. I probably wouldn't tell them that was my reason for not playing, I think it would make me sound unfriendly.
 
It’s not too uncommon. If someone doesn’t like the music being played or if there is something (sports) on the TV they don’t care to listen to. I wouldn’t want a whole table of people doing it. But 1 or 2 people is not an issue as long as they are paying attention to the game and don’t slow it down because of the headphones.

Or if they’re sitting next to a known very loud talker!
 
Yeah imagine that x 8.. Loud talkers... I don't mind people using headphones at all in my games..
 
I mean im there to play poker, not for a social meeting...
That group is obviously together for the social aspect, and poker is secondary. As long as they keep the game moving, it's fine.

I like my games to be social, but I'm always concerned with keeping the game moving, and in a sense I'm "training" my group. Unfotunately, that means I tend to miss a lot of the social aspect of my game. It will get easier as my group gets more experience. I worry that I come across as a bit of a buzzkill when someone's telling a story, and I'm like "hey, what kind of decision would you make if action was on you?", or "we're all wondering what the turn card is going to be."
 
I mean im there to play poker, not for a social meeting...
Home games are inherently social with most players on friendly terms. There is constant chatter at our home game, and yes, it does slow the game down from time to time. But we have fun while we play. While we generally have a substantial amount of cash on the table, it is still a very relaxed atmosphere.

If you want a serious game you would be better off going to a casino card room, complete with headphones, hoodies and scarves over faces.
 
Taking a rake and misdealing cause of loud music and stuff is a real problem for me. I know that no one is perfect, but misdeals bother me. Especially when it’s due to people basically not paying attention.
 
Should I just tell them the real reason ??
Yes
Why they do not deserve your honest explanation? Just tell why such kind of game is not what you are looking for.
Explain why you do not fit in such social event, not why they should be doing differently. The social part it's maybe the primary reason why they are there in first place.

It's nothing wrong in life saying "I do not like this".
 
I think there is value in being straight up. No use being coy.

I agree with this as long as you are respectful and non confrontational. Simply saying, “I’ll pass, it’s a little loud for my taste.” is much better than, “I’m not coming back here cause y’all make too much damn noise.” :)
 
I mean im there to play poker, not for a social meeting...

^This is key^. Pretty clearly seems like the wrong game for you as the 90% of the people you didn't know are there as much for the social aspect. No harm, no foul, just not your bag, baby.

Oi, just read the part about a rake. Double F-that noise. Now it seems like amateur hour with someone taxing folks to play a "social" game. Not my bag, baby!
 
I mean im there to play poker, not for a social meeting...
After reading that the host takes a rake, I agree with this.

I would be pretty upset too if they're taking a rake and the game was run sloppily.
 
Loudness and chatter do not necessarily equal slow and poor poker. I play in a very social game with a lot of chatter, but the action moves very nicely and it’s a great game.

Having said that, a rake does change things a bit, but as long as the dealer is paying attention and moving the game, that’s OK.
 

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