Having my first Baby! (my wife... not me) (1 Viewer)

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Hi all!

With Father's Day around the corner... I thought I would share my good news here!

I am SUPER excited to be a DAD (JULY)! I wanted to open this thread and get some advice from any of you... Rather then lecture me or give me 104 bullet points to live by when you have a newborn.... instead, I want you all to post ONE PIECE OF ADVICE for a soon to be father.

It could be a tip, trick, words to live by, warnings, etc.

Ready go!

Happy Early Father's Day!

DTS
 
First of all, congratulations! That's awesome news, DAD!

You're going to be flooded with advice, tips, tricks, warnings, etc. (whether you like it or not). ;) One piece of advice - get a decent external HDD for all those baby pics/videos you'll eventually take.
 
CONGRATULATIONS MY FRIEND!!! Nothing in life is better than being a Daddy!!! The nurse chastised me when my first born was partially out and I screamed...."It's a boy!!!!!!" All I know is that my heart was filled with joy beyond belief for each of my 4 babies...and you will NEVER forget a single moment of any of them!!:love:
 
Congrats.

My best advice is trust your gut and don’t worry that you are doing things wrong.

And you likely won’t sleep well for 2 or 3 years, but it is totally worth it.
Oh and one more thing...

Always put the new diaper under the baby before taking off the old one. Trust me.
 
Congratulations. Becoming a dad and seeing your child born is the most amazing and heart moving experience in the world. It's been said but I'm going to repeat it as my one piece of advice as it can't be emphasised enough. If you get a chance to sleep, take it.
 
Had my first son february last year and we're having our second son in september.
Since you've been warned to get sleep whenever you can - I'm still not out of the sleep deprived phase yet - here's something that wasn't mentioned.
For the first three months - always have several (preferably clean) towels (we call them "Spucktücher" - a towel for babies to spit onto) spread out strategically around the appartment so that you don't have to run around looking for one when you need them. And you will need them. A lot.

But yeah, it's a magical time and I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. :)
 
Congrats!

I'll echo what @Geremie said, enjoy them while they're little because time flies - especially when you're sleep deprived ;) You'll spend the first few years teaching them to walk and talk and then the next 15 years telling them to sit down and be quiet.... :wtf: :LOL: :laugh: ;)

And start saving/planning for college. Now. Seriously.
 
Babies are awesome. Lots of good wisdom here. People always say “get your sleep now” and “the time flies by”. Both of these are very true.

Yes you’ll be tired and barely get to sleep in the beginning, but it’s so worth it. Kids can give so much meaning to life that it gives an entirely new perspective for who you are and why you do the things you do.

When they say the time flies, it doesn’t mean that it seems like time is going by fast. The time actually feels slow since your sleep deprived, but after a year, you look back and all that time is gone. It’s so fast in hindsight.

I think often overlooked is, make sure you give a lot of attention to your wife too. Babies are awesome and much of your attention will be towards them, but sometimes we forget to give our wives attention. Not attention that she’s a mother, but the attention that she’s your wife. Amongst common chores like helping with dishes food laundry cleaning etc, buy her flowers, write her notes, show affection, etc.ind family and friends that can help out and maybe babysit for a few hours just so you can have time with your wife away from you kid.

There’s so much more but I can’t remember right now. Too tired Lol
 
My advice:

- Zippers >>>>>> snaps when it comes to baby clothes
- When they get old enough, just dress them for the next day instead of PJs at night. They wake up and are ready to roll.
This is the best advice I’ve read here.....Zippers!!! People who have kids and give you cloths with snaps are not your real friends :ROFL: :ROFLMAO:

Seriously though, who though it would be a good idea to have to do 20 snaps in the dark when you are half asleep.

Help each other sleep as much as you can and enjoy every moment cause it flies.
 
Congrats!

I'll echo what @Geremie said, enjoy them while they're little because time flies - especially when you're sleep deprived ;) You'll spend the first few years teaching them to walk and talk and then the next 15 years telling them to sit down and be quiet.... :wtf: :LOL: :laugh: ;)

And start saving/planning for college. Now. Seriously.
So true. In Canada, we have the RESP (registered education savings plan). The government will give you 20% of your contributions up to $500 each year to a lifetime max of $7200 (takes 14 years).

All investment income within a RESP grows tax free.

The government grant and investment income becomes taxable for the child when taken out to pay for post secondary tuition, but they’ll likely pay no tax since students don’t typically earn enough to be taxable.
 
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Hi all!

With Father's Day around the corner... I thought I would share my good news here!

I am SUPER excited to be a DAD (JULY)! I wanted to open this thread and get some advice from any of you... Rather then lecture me or give me 104 bullet points to live by when you have a newborn.... instead, I want you all to post ONE PIECE OF ADVICE for a soon to be father.

It could be a tip, trick, words to live by, warnings, etc.

Ready go!

Happy Early Father's Day!

DTS
Congratulations! My one piece of advice.. see how many days your wife can go without having to change a diaper. She’ll be grateful and she’ll let you buy more chips in the future.
 
just dress them for the next day instead of PJs at night. They wake up and are ready to roll.
WHAT SORCERY IS THIS?!

My daughter will be 2 in July and our second is due in November. My advice (for me, and for you!):

-Be a great teammate to your partner if they are in the picture (assuming yes in this scenario). You’ll need each other. Give some grace and the benefit of the doubt. Be patient. Forgive. Say you’re sorry. Don’t hold a grudge. Drop your ego. Choose “happy” over “right”
 
Oh yeah. And don’t sell your chips!!

when I had my first kid I thought my chipping days were over. I didn’t host or play and it tied up too much money so I sold all my sets. But only a few years and I was back at it. But all my beloved sets were gone.
 
Have already posted but thought of something else not mentioned so consider this my straddle. Loads of people will buy you new born clothes when the baby is born and you end up with loads that will never get used and are no use after a couple of months. Ask a few people to get you for a three month and a few to get you for six months.
 
My number one piece of advice to a new mother/father. Enjoy every minute you have with your new child. They grow up quick and don't miss out on all of the things a child will go through. Very important for their spiritual and mental growth and also good for the parents!!!

Good luck
 
Have already posted but thought of something else not mentioned so consider this my straddle. Loads of people will buy you new born clothes when the baby is born and you end up with loads that will never get used and are no use after a couple of months. Ask a few people to get you for a three month and a few to get you for six months.
My wife bought every cute outfit she found. Seems like most were donated with tags still on them.
 
Spend as much time with them as they will handle, as they age. My kids are all teenagers now, and quality time together seems few and far between. So when he or she is 8 and wants to shoot hoops or throw the ball, do it. Work can wait.
 
Spend as much time with them as they will handle, as they age. My kids are all teenagers now, and quality time together seems few and far between. So when he or she is 8 and wants to shoot hoops or throw the ball, do it. Work can wait.


work can always wait. Work is secondary to family.
 
Babies are awesome........
I think often overlooked is, make sure you give a lot of attention to your wife too. Babies are awesome and much of your attention will be towards them, but sometimes we forget to give our wives attention. Not attention that she’s a mother, but the attention that she’s your wife. Amongst common chores like helping with dishes food laundry cleaning etc, buy her flowers, write her notes, show affection, etc.ind family and friends that can help out and maybe babysit for a few hours just so you can have time with your wife away from you kid.
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My advice (for me, and for you!):
Be a great teammate to your partner ................. You’ll need each other. Give some grace and the benefit of the doubt. Be patient. Forgive. Say you’re sorry. Don’t hold a grudge. Drop your ego. Choose “happy” over “right”
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are what I was talking about earlier that lead to the "Happy wife, happy life."
 

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