If Villain merely calls, we almost certainly have him beat. We made the last aggressive action and have a near-certain winner. Any stalling is purely to get him to show what we know is a losing hand, in a spot where we are supposed to show first. Peeling only the 7 is like getting him to show out of a sense of false hope. That's slow-rolling
Stalling is entirely different than taking a few moments. What I thought I described could happen in a matter of seconds, with most players not even noticing it happened because they are talking.
To assume that what I meant was to stall and hold up the game for everyone just to slow roll as well as the possible assumption that I would do this all night is simply off the mark. I might do something like this (encourage them to flip first, even though the word encourage is too strong to denote what I am doing) maybe 4 times in an entire session. I typically play 10-14 hour sessions. That is a wasted, what? 45-60 seconds over a session? I am sure that cuts into the house rake. BTW I deal regularly and trust me, I am all about keeping the game going. I will easily pull $400-600 in tokes dealing at a 1/2 game down here. It is always in my best interest to keep the game going as a player or a dealer.
I have seen in many cases where a player perceives another as being overly aggressive, calls OOP, flops well, and is scared to get in there as the hand progresses and the board gets scarier. Something which you alluded to. In your reply about a possible 2 pair. We do almost certainly have him beat I agree, but if he did slow play two pair A2o or backed into 2 pair A3 or A6 then why could we not make the case that he slow rolled a set of 2s, wanting to lay a big trap and the board got to ugly for him and he is OOP? If he had been getting beat all night I could see this. I have seen guys afraid to put their stacks in with KK or AA just because they have been running so bad, they inevitably do, but they hesitate feeling they will lose.
In this situation I agree hero is almost always good against a laggy 1/2 player, but if I was in this situation and felt maybe I was behind I might say something like whatcha got?, or show a seven if I felt he would show. Hell, I have seen players muck in spots like this just by showing them the seven!
Of course you would then have to show the whole hand to take the pot. But there is info there that you wouldn't have got just by tabling your whole hand right away like a boy scout should. You discovered just your seven was good. Now you have a better idea of what he had, just a busted flush draw with a small pair looks a whole lot more likely, which helps you take their stack later.
If I felt he would show first and he does, thats his mistake not mine.
Thinking something of this sort as described here as unethical and deciding no to do it is akin to seeing a fish at a table bet big out of turn (when you know they have a premium hand you don't want to play against them) ahead of you when you were going to bet and deciding not to fold, like the "judge tells the jury to dismiss certain remarks.", because it would be against what you were intending to do.
If I make the last aggressive action, and while watching my opponent, I notice he calls and starts to flip his cards over, Im not going to say "Whoa there buddy, don't let me see them, you are supposed to see mine first." Neither would anyone. I am not advocating taking forever. I did say I would have waited and should have been clearer.
Hesitate a bit would have been better to describe what I meant.
I would read the situation and deem whether or not it was appropriate. (appropriate if I can get something without putting off the table or fish) Certainly slow-rolling is terrible, but a little is used all the time by players who try to be cheeky, and is akin to showing a bluff. For instance, if hero tables his hand by flipping both cards over while they are stacked just long enough to show the seven for villain to see then spreads them quickly to show a winner. Total douche move, but happens all the time.
Players, even the most anal retentive in their observance of etiquette will pull this sort of BS just to get a rise out of another player. And it certainly is not fun to have it happen to you. Is it any different that it only took a second or two? I actually see it as worse if you have the nuts. Something card-protector overly zealous rule quoters seem to do. (not saying this is you or anyone on this thread.) I think we all know the types I am referring to.
That "little back and forth" is really annoying to a lot of players and is considered poor etiquette. It also costs the dealer, the house, and winning players money by slowing down the game for no reason.
The house certainly cares about the reg fish and whales. (illegal games). If a whale or a reg fish in the game wants to do it, you better believe the house/dealer/and good players let them and cater to them. I have seen games allow whales to ruin cards by bending and breaking them when they lose because they practically donate 2k every week. Sure as hell costs the house money in cards and time to get a new setup out. A guy going on book for a dime or two a week will be catered to. If they want to talk a bit at showdown and stall I will see what I can get out of them, and I will play their game and let them think I am just there having a good ol' time like them. It is as simple as that. I am there to make money.
If there is already guys doing it, and all the good players are taking advantage of it, why not do it too? Because its a jerk move? So is not telling a guy how you knew he had a losing hand and taking his hard-earned money off him only for him to repeat it week after week.
A little back and forth at a card table with real players, who typically act faster than most casino dealers can keep track of, will certainly be allowed if it is profitable to them in the way of info. Anything that separates a sucker from his money with less effort will be used.
These types of players also know how and when to do this in the game. They are doing it with great care as to not put off a fish. House players, dealers, game runners, and solid grinders will all do this.
I know fish who have been told over and over again they don't have to show first and they still do (unprovoked of course) unless they have a hand that they don't think they are winning with (sad part is, they usually do think they are winning when they flip their cards over first and they still lose.)
Poker is war, people pretend it is a game.
-Doyle Brunson.